Have you ever pulled away from your spouse’s affection…
—even though part of you wanted it?
Or maybe they offer something kind—a compliment, a hug, a moment of connection—and your whole body tenses or recoils?
You’re not alone.
And you’re not broken.
This week on the podcast, I’m exploring a concept that’s been deeply eye-opening for me—and for so many of my clients:
What if you’re not resisting love… you’re resisting the pain that once came with it?
Maybe “love” used to mean:
- Pressure to perform
- Conditional affection
- Being needed more than being known
- Or being told what’s “best” for you while your voice was dismissed
So now, even healthy love can feel like a threat.
Your nervous system doesn’t recognize it as safe—it recognizes it as familiar.
And familiar, in this case, feels risky.
In this episode, I walk through:
- Why shame and unhealed stories distort how we give and receive love
- How past experiences can cause us to resist connection—even when we long for it
- And the steps we can take to gently start healing and creating safety again
If you’ve ever wondered why love feels complicated, this might be the insight you didn’t know you needed.
This episode is a little tender, a little exploratory, and I truly believe it might unlock something powerful for you—just like it did for me.
I’m a marriage coach who helps women and couples turn a disconnected, lonely marriage into something deeply connected—sometimes even better than they imagined was possible. We start by gently exploring what you truly want in your marriage—because let’s be honest, it’s probably been a while since you’ve let yourself dream about what could be. From there, we create a path forward toward the kind of relationship you long for.
If you’re feeling sad, stuck, or unsure about what’s next, I’d love to talk with you. Book a Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call, and let’s have an honest, hope-filled conversation about what’s going on and what it might look like to begin creating something new—starting from exactly where you are.
