In many marriages, there’s a quiet, often invisible dynamic that keeps one person shrinking and the other wondering why they feel so alone — even when both partners care deeply.
It’s called the “one down” position.
And it’s more common than you might think.
Sometimes it looks like always apologizing…
Or saying, “You deserve better than me.”
Or hiding behind a wall of withdrawal and silence.
But underneath, it’s all rooted in shame — a belief that “I’m not enough,” or “I don’t belong in this relationship as I am.”
In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m diving deep into this dynamic:
💬 What it really means to be one down
🔄 The two different ways it can show up — walled off or boundaryless
💡 How it might be quietly playing out in your own marriage
🌱 And most importantly, what you can do to begin shifting back into equal, emotionally safe partnership — whether it’s your spouse who’s stuck there, or you.
This episode is an invitation to reflect with compassion — not judgment — and to start noticing the patterns that might be keeping connection just out of reach.
🎧 Listen now and begin the journey of stepping into deeper emotional equality
I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.
If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started.
