Have you ever wondered why sex seemed so natural in the beginning, but now feels complicated—or even avoided?
For many couples, sex was the hook that brought them together.
- For her, giving herself felt like the way to keep his attention.
- For him, receiving her felt like proof that he was wanted.
It worked—at least for a while. But over time, that script creates a painful standoff: she pulls back, weary of obligation, knowing that this type of intimacy doesn’t feel right, while he feels rejected, confused, and wondering what changed.
Jeff and I lived this story. I realized I was using sex to keep him interested, and when I stopped, my desire plummeted because it was based on lies. I asked him to start initiating, but what I didn’t know was how insecure he felt doing that. What was meant to bring us closer created a chasm between us.
In this week’s bonus episode, When Sex Was the Hook, I share our journey of untangling this pattern—and how couples can move toward a more honest, holistic intimacy.
If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or leave a review. It’s one of the most powerful ways to help more couples find hope in their own journey.
I’m a marriage coach who helps women and couples turn a disconnected, lonely marriage into something deeply connected—sometimes even better than they imagined was possible. We start by gently exploring what you truly want in your marriage—because let’s be honest, it’s probably been a while since you’ve let yourself dream about what could be. From there, we create a path forward toward the kind of relationship you long for.
If you’re feeling sad, stuck, or unsure about what’s next, I’d love to talk with you. Book a Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call, and let’s have an honest, hope-filled conversation about what’s going on and what it might look like to begin creating something new—starting from exactly where you are.
