Healing The Mother-Daughter Relationship with Karen C. L. Anderson

Healing The Mother-Daughter Relationship with Karen C. Anderson | Relationship Coach

Karen C. L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity. 

She is the author of:

  • After (The Before & After) (2011)
  • The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available)
  • Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) 
  • The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020)
  • Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020)
  • Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (July 2020)

Karen’s next book, tentatively entitled Unshame Yourself: Healing The Most Toxic Relationship Of All, is scheduled to be published in 2022.

She is also at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.

Prior to all of this? Karen spent seven years as a freelance writer and before that, 17 years trying to fit her right-brained self into a left-brained career as a trade magazine journalist in the field of plastics (and if she had a dime for every time someone mentioned that line from The Graduate…).

Karen and her husband Tim Anderson (a left-brained engineer) live on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline.  

Certifications & Education:

  • Certified Dare To Lead Trained Professional
  • Master Certified Coach, Life Coach School
  • Healthy Boundaries for Kind People coach and facilitator
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques practitioner (EFT Training For Trauma, Levels I + II)
  • Bachelor of Arts degree in Communications from Marist College

You can find Karen and learn more about her coaching program, The Mother Lode on her website: www.kclanderson.com

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I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.

One Simple Way To See If You Trust Yourself Ep 10

One Simple Way To See If You Trust Yourself | Relationship Coach

All of us have struggled with times in our lives when we didn’t believe in ourselves, times when we didn’t fully trust we could reach a goal we set for ourselves; I’m willing to say that it plagues most of us every single day. I know there are days when I have a positive mindset and everything I have said I would do gets accomplished, but then there are other days where my mind is convinced I’ll never “make it.” Learning how to trust yourself is a practice well worth doing because every time you take a step forward and prove self-trust to yourself, your brain will more often trust you. Today I’m going to share one simple way to see if you trust yourself; this example was the first time I sat down with myself and told myself the truth about whether I trust myself or not. 

I used to believe that I trusted myself, but honestly, I hadn’t really thought about it; I just denied that I didn’t trust myself. I thought I trusted myself because I didn’t feel like I could trust anyone else, so of course, I thought I trusted myself. What I have found to be the truth, though, is that as I have learned how to trust myself, I have let go of my lack of trust in other people. I have found confidence in myself to take care of myself, to recognize when others might be attempting to take advantage of me but not always assuming upfront that they are. I trust everyone until they give me a reason not to trust them.

Today I want you to ask yourself if you trust yourself.

Answer that question and then ask yourself a few others. Why do you think you trust yourself? What does it mean to trust yourself? Do you trust other people, or are you suspicious of them? Do you check your partner’s phone messages, do you listen to their phone conversations, do you look with distrust to your co-workers who are chatting together without you?

I’m not telling you that you should be unaware of what is happening around you, but when you trust yourself, you can let other people be who they are. You can join co-workers in their conversations without wondering what they think of you. You can love your spouse without having to check on them behind their back; as a matter of fact, if you have a question for them, you would ask from a place of curiosity or conversation rather than distrust.

Here is one simple way to see if you trust yourself:

Ask yourself how many times per week you do what you told yourself you would do. How many times do you tell yourself you’re going to do something, and then you don’t follow through?

Every time you do this, you solidify your brain’s belief that you are not going to do what you say you will do. Every time you tell yourself you’re going to do something and you don’t do it, you reinforce that distrust superhighway in your brain. If this is you, you know it, and it’s not something to be ashamed of; it’s something we do. When we become aware of a behavior that isn’t serving our best life, it is an opportunity to change it, to grow, and this is what life coaching is all about. This is why I love life coaching because there is always something to uncover within ourselves, something that is holding us back from being our next best selves. When we uncover this behavior, we can get to doing the work of solving and changing.

Ask yourself about today. How many times today did you follow through and do what you told yourself you were going to do? How many things did you tell yourself that you would do today that you didn’t do?

“I’m going to eat ‘healthy’ today.”

“I’m going to have a 10 minute conversation with my husband tonight.”

“I’ll call so and so after work.”

“I’m going to plan a get-away for our anniversary.”

How many times have you carried over that one task you have been telling yourself to do for ummm, a month, maybe even longer? If I look back at my life a couple of years back, I remember having lists of things that I wanted to get done. I would carry many of those to-dos over and over and over every week, but now I no longer do that. Sure, there are times when I carry a task over for a few weeks, but if I continue to do so for more than a few weeks, I ask myself why I’m not completing this task. If it’s important, I have a little discussion with myself, look at why I might be avoiding and solve the problem and get the task done. Sometimes I simply decide that this isn’t important enough; I’m not making it a priority, so I let it go trusting myself, knowing that if it’s important enough, it will come up again, and I can re-visit it at that time.

Think about that friend of yours who is consistently late to commitments you plan; maybe she doesn’t show up or bows out at the last moment; do you trust her to show up on time anymore? Do you expect her to have an excuse as to why she can’t make it this time and find yourself surprised when she does commit?

There are a few important tips that I will be sharing with you next week to help you start the process of building trust within yourself, but for now, I want you to start paying attention to the times throughout the day and the week that you don’t follow through on what you tell yourself you will do. I suggest you take five minutes at the end of the day and write the things down and then take another five minutes to answer the question: “Why didn’t I do this thing I keep telling myself to do?” Creating awareness this week to the ways you are re-inforcing the belief that you don’t trust yourself, and then next week, I’ll share ways to start taking steps towards building self-trust.

Look at yourself honestly and then decide if you like not trusting yourself.

I didn’t like it so I decided to change it, tune in next week to learn how to change it!


I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.

Loving Your Sex Life with Amanda Louder

Loving Your Sex Life with Amanda Louder | Relationship Coach

Today’s expert interview is with Amanda Louder. Amanda is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.

In addition to being a coach, Amanda has been married to her husband Kevin for 8 years.  They have a blended family of 5 children ages 12-21 and live in Salt Lake City.  In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, traveling, fishing, and camping.

You can find Amanda on her website: Amanda Louder Coaching

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I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.

Stop Wondering If You Married The Wrong Guy with Candice Toone

Loving Your Sex Life with Amanda Louder | Relationship Coach

Today’s guest Candice Toone is a Master Certified Life Coach. She helps women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy and start trusting their choices again. She mentors in The Life Coach School’s Self Coaching Scholars program, coaches in Jody Moore’s Be Bold membership, and guides her own clients – lovingly referred to as her Bees – in her private coaching program, Defying Gravity

She holds a Master’s degree in psychology from Utah State University and worked as a Marriage and Family Therapist before becoming a coach. She’s a women’s fiction author, a connoisseur of grapefruit juice, and a Jazzercise enthusiast who lives in Herriman, UT with her husband, 3 children, and their dog.

Listen in as this emotional expert shares her journey and how she helps women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy.

You can find Candice on her website: Candice Toone Coaching

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Candice’s recommended reading: Untamed by Glennon Doyle, The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, Women, Food and God by Geneen Roth

I also mentioned the book I am currently reading: The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck, M.D.

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I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.

How To Start Loving Yourself Ep 1

How To Start Loving Yourself | Relationship Coach

Here it is my friend, my best tip as to how to start loving yourself is to decide.

I see you shaking your head and rolling your eyes, all mad at me for the worst piece of advice ever, but before you click off the page, please read on because this short article might just change your life.

Yes, my one best tip as to how to start loving yourself is to decide that you are done with the self-sabotage.

It really is just a decision, I’m not saying it’s something you decide today and life goes on to a happily ever after, but what I am saying is you get to decide whether you want to love yourself or not.

 

This in itself, was truly magical for me once I allowed it to really sink in. You see, I had never been taught that this was even available for me, or if it had I most certainly was absent on that day of class.

 

The reason you feel like you can’t move forward with that decision is because of your brain. Your brain likes to keep things simple. You have run a series of thoughts for so long in your life that they have become deeply engrained neurological pathways. Sort of like walking. There was a time when you didn’t know how to walk, it was difficult, you fell down a lot, now you no longer have to be deliberate about taking steps, it’s committed to our primitive brain.

 

Same with those thoughts like:

 

“I’m fat.”

“I’m stupid.”

“I’m not good enough to do such and such.”

Insert your own negative mantra.

 

They may seem harmless, I hear you say it like you’re reporting the weather. These are thoughts you’ve had for so many years they’ve become instinctual. The work to change those neurological paths will need to be deliberate, consistent and a practice that starts with deciding today to chose a new mantra.

 

The beginning is going to be rough, your brain is going to argue with you. It’s going to tell you that you’re a liar, that you don’t know what you’re talking about, that you’re talking nonsense, I mean really, “Did you look in the mirror today?”

 

What I teach my clients is how to unlearn everything they have taught themselves about themselves.

 

I teach them how to start trusting themselves.

 

I teach them how to start saying positive things to themselves and change these new thoughts to absolute truths.

 

I teach them how to find love from within and how to stop looking outside of yourself for love, how to stop trying to manipulate others so that they can feel loved.

I teach them how to have their own back.

Love starts with you my friend and it’s a choice you get to make.

 

Will you choose love or will you continue the self-sabotage?

 

If you are running a continual thought loop of how you’re not good enough then I would love to start the conversation with you about how my AwakenYou one-on-one coaching program can turn your life around. I see how wildly successful you are, now imagine actually enjoying this life of success that you’ve created, actually believing in your own success. Your life is waiting for you, there’s no better time than now to start making that change you’ve been dreaming about for your life. Today could be the day you look back at one year from now and smile because today was the day you decided to be all in on you and your future, I can’t wait to watch your life take off!


I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.

How to Get Over Your Ex with Dorothy Johnson

Stop Wondering If You Married The Wrong Guy with Candice Toone | Relationship Coach

Today’s guest is Dorothy Johnson, better known as Breakup Coach Dorothy. Dorothy helps humans heal their hearts so they can go on to help heal the world in their own unique ways using her proven and tested 3 step process. Her clients get over their ex and build a life better than the one they had with their ex in 3 months or less.

Listen in as this beautiful soul shares her journey into life coaching and how she helps people get over their ex and build a better life for themselves, enjoy!

You can find her on her website: Breakup Coach Dorothy

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I am a life coach who works with individuals looking to change their current or future romantic relationship – my program helps them discover that they are enough. This self-love empowers and equips them to take continual, forward steps in achieving the sustainable, healthy, and fierce romantic relationship they desire. If you are ready to explore this beautiful journey then schedule your program inquiry call today and let me help you decide if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.