Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving Is Self-Betrayal Ep 120

Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving Is Self Betrayal | Marriage Coach
 

So many of you have left your marriage, given up on the dream you once believed was possible with the one you’re with, but you haven’t moved on.

Leaving your marriage might not mean you’ve moved toward filing for a divorce.

It might even look like everything is well and good to the outside world, while inside, you are secretly slowly dying.

I’ve been there. 

I thought all of the things to justify that this sort of distant marriage was acceptable, yet deep in my soul, I knew something better was possible.

Something better was possible for me, and something better is possible for you.

If you’ve left your marriage without leaving, this week’s AwakenYou in your marriage episode is a must-listen! Episode 120: Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving Your Marriage will open your eyes to your self-abandonment, help you see how this might be a familiar cycle, and give you some hope to change the cycle.

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I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

How To Build The Closeness You Desire Ep 119

How To Build The Closeness You Desire | Marriage Coach
 

Getting close to someone, and I’m not just talking about skin-to-skin, but really letting someone know us, see into us, requires trust.

Trust and a sense of feeling psychologically safe and secure is a process that needs to be established over time.

As you share your wants, desires, and dreams and your partner hears you out without arguing, dismissing or trying to change you, you feel safe to open up even more.

This process leads you to knowing your partner and letting your partner know you.

It’s what builds the closeness you crave.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 119: How To Create The Closeness You Desire: Building Safety & Security, I will teach you:

  • Where your sense of safety and security come from
  • How to build your sense of safety and security
  • Why it’s so important to provide safety and security for others 

All so you can start opening up to more of what you want in your marriage!

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I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

Should You Stay Or Go & Why You Need To Decide Ep 118

Should You Stay Or Go & Why You Need To Decide | Marriage Coach
 

 If you’ve ever wondered if you married the wrong person, then you’re considering an option other than the one you’re with.

If you’ve secretly wondered if life would be better if you left in the heat of conflict, then the option to give up is playing in the background.

If, on a lonely Friday evening, while your spouse is still at work, you’ve played with the idea of being free to do as you please, you are internally divided.

First, I want to share that it is not uncommon for you to question your choice when things appear to go awry in your marriage; the problem comes with what you do when that question pops into your brain.

Second, this isn’t fair to either of you.

When you don’t make it a point to be all in or take steps to go, your lack of commitment will keep you from digging into the work of fighting for what you want.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 118: Should You Stay Or Go & Why You Want To Decide, I will help you see how deciding will feel so much better than sitting on the fence. 

Listen right here.

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

What A Love Leader Is & Why You Want To Become One Ep 117

What A Love Leader Is & Why You Want To Become One | Marriage Coach

Everything you do in your relationship with your spouse is about receiving love. 

  • Yep, when you blow up because he didn’t bother to plan anything for Mother’s Day, again, it’s all because you want love.
  • When you don’t make plans to do something with your partner because they never bother, it’s because you want love.
  • It’s because you want love when you withdraw into yourself as they come through the door.

You may not consider yourself a leader, but to be perfectly upfront with you, you are a leader in your marriage. All of the above actions lead and influence your partner.

Yes, whether you know it or not, you are a love leader in your marriage, so the question is, which direction do you want to lead this relationship you are in?

In the episode, I will share the following: 

  • What a love leader is
  • Why you want to become the love leader in your marriage
  • How to become the one who leads your marriage right to that magical place you dream of living in

 

This week on AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 117: What A Love Leader Is & Why You Want To Become One, I will help you see how you hold the key to everything you want in your intimate relationship!

Listen right here.

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

Building a Strong Foundation: 7 Pillars for a Balanced Support System with Your Spouse Ep 116

Building a Strong Foundation: 7 Pillars for a Balanced Support System with Your Spouse | Marriage Coach
 

When people think about building a balanced support system with their spouse when they’ve been married for years without one, you can imagine they’re not all fired up about the idea of digging in.

It does sound a bit exhausting.

But what’s your alternative?

Continuing on the way things are?

How about divvying up all of your things and moving on? Our brains will tell us this would be much easier, and maybe that is the answer you choose, but trust me, having been through divorce and having coached many others through the process, it’s not any easier than doing the work of cleaning up what you’ve already got.

This week I take a relationship concept for our friendships from Rober Waldinger and Marc Schulz’s book The Good Life and apply it to our intimate relationship.

In the episode, I share the following: 

  • What I’m calling the 7 Intimate Relationship Pillars
  • How to start the process of tackling each of these areas so you can start re-building your intimate relationship
  • Teach you how to implement a plan to stay consistent and create success 

This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 116: Building a Strong Foundation: 7 Pillars for a Balanced Support System with Your Spouse, I share a simple and implementable process that will have you feeling rejuvenated about how to approach re-connecting with your spouse. 

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around Ep 115

The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around | Marriage Coach

 

The first step to healing your marriage is probably not the first thing that would come to mind when you’re unhappy in your marriage.

The first place most people turn when unhappy in their marriage is their spouse.

They tell their spouse they’re unhappy; usually, the spouse is not surprised because they’re not happy either, and they need to see a counselor.

Not an entirely bad idea, but usually, that means that the problem they are trying to solve is within their spouse.

This will NOT end well.

Trying to get your spouse to change is a solution that will never last; that’s why in AwakenYou, we start with ourselves.

This is the easiest way to start because we get to work on ourselves without trying to drag our spouses along.

It’s the most effective way to start because your spouse will see the change and growth you are experiencing, and it will impact how they interact with you…in a way that will get you precisely what you’ve been wanting.

This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 115: The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around, I share how you can begin to feel better in your marriage without dragging your spouse into a therapist’s office. 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started.