This year has been interesting for me.
As I launch this new business of mine I’m not paying myself a salary for the first year, I’m investing everything back into the business.
You know what that means? No money to spend. You know what that means? I get to watch what happens in my brain when I want to seek pleasure through a retail purchase.
It’s also been an interesting, liberating experience.
I have been watching my mind around wanting to seek pleasure through some sort of purchase. A purchase that will leave me empty and left with my original emotion that put me in that search. A purchase that leaves me with yet another “object” in my possession that I really, truly do not need.
When we seek pleasure from outside of ourselves it’s always a fleeting experience, it leaves you empty, joyless.
When you learn how to create joy and love from within, that is when your purpose and fulfillment can be found.
This mind work I have also done around overeating and over drinking.
First, let me explain what I mean by “overeating” and “over drinking”. What I mean by these two terms may not be what you are envisioning, it basically means eating or drinking when I don’t want, or need, to. It might even be eating a carrot when I really don’t need one. This example may seem a bit odd but we’ll keep moving forward. You see I used to drink, often when I said I wouldn’t, to make myself feel better. Then when I would drink I would get mad at myself for drinking because I had told myself I wasn’t going to.
I also used to eat food to feel better, until of course, after eating the food and feeling something like regret.
I no longer drink for pleasure, actually, I hardly ever drink unless I plan it ahead of time.
I also very seldom eat for pleasure and when I do I break it down and look at why I did so I can learn moving forward.
When you start doing the work of eliminating pleasure at your own expense, you actually have to start feeling, and dealing with, your emotions.
Pleasure is something we are wired to seek, yet in today’s society pleasure is a drug. We avoid negative emotion through a pleasurable activity that allows us to escape temporarily, but leaves us empty and often full of regret.
So we seek it some more.
When you have no money to spend, what is left is your emotions. When you don’t overeat or drink you don’t use those temporary pleasures to deal with whatever is coming up for you.
You’re just left with yourself and the emotion.
Without the activities that allow us to avoid our feeling, we’re left with our brain to figure out what is going on for us and how we want to process it, like an adult.
We then have a choice.
Will we stay stuck in the negative emotion and feel sorry for ourselves?
It’s an option.
There is another option though. That option is to explore those emotions. To discover the root of those negative thoughts and decide what you want to do with them.
Do you want to indulge in them or do you want to start doing what it takes to change them?
It’s a choice you get to make.
Joy is always available but not when you’re seeking pleasure to solve for it.
Joy comes from inside of you.
Joy comes from making the conscious choice to change.
Joy comes from being all in on you.
Once you start finding joy from within, that’s when meaning, purpose, and fulfillment start to bloom like a beautiful rose.
That’s when you start honoring your true self.
That’s when you Awaken(YourTrue)You and start designing a life of love, joy, and purpose.
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