It’s not uncommon for us to be a bit unsure of who we are as an individual.

Remember Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride?

We grow up being told who we are and wonder who we are to question those opinions.

Based on the surrounding culture, we become who we think we need to be to be good employees, moms, dads, friends, and family members.

We may even attract our spouse by being the person we thought we needed to be to keep them interested in us. 

“I’ll take my eggs the way you do!”

Eventually, in our marriages, this way of being can get in the way of an intimate connection with your spouse.

This week on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast, I’m diving deep into the essence of self-discovery and its profound impact on our most cherished relationships.

In a world where self-awareness is the compass guiding us toward growth, we’re here to explore:

🌱 The Journey Within: Discover how your sense of self, formed since the moment you entered this world, shapes every facet of your life.

💞 Relationship Dynamics: Uncover the untold story of how your self-concept influences your marriage, affecting not just you but your partner too.

🤔 Navigating Change: Embrace the transformative power of self-discovery, and learn how evolving into your authentic self can rejuvenate your relationship.

💪 Building Your Best Self: Gain practical insights and strategies for self-compassion, self-acceptance, and harnessing change for a stronger, happier marriage.

Life is a journey of self-discovery, and I’m here to help you navigate it with confidence and love. Tune in now to Ep 136: Who Are You? The Process of Becoming Yourself & How it Affects Your Marriage and embark on this transformative quest with me. Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button and share with those who crave self-awareness and thriving relationships!

Ready to embrace the incredible power of becoming your best self? Let’s do this together!

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

 

A marriage caught in a tangled web 🕸️ of outside influences is not a marriage where open, honest intimacy can grow.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I am diving into the world of Triangulation: Going Outside of the Marriage.

Join me as we unravel this complex dynamic and explore its impact on our marriages. From understanding what triangulation is to identifying its destructive patterns, I’ll equip you with the insights and tools to navigate this familiar challenge.

I’ll help you discover:

• What exactly is triangulation, and how does it affect your relationship?
• The positive uses of triangulation for growth and healing.
• The destructive side of triangulation and how to avoid it.
• Tips to identify and stop triangulation in its tracks.

Triangulation can either strengthen or strain your connection with your spouse – depending on how you approach it.

Tune in to learn how to keep your relationship thriving and free from external entanglements.

Need to untangle the knots? Then listen now to Ep 135: Triangulation: Going Outside of the Marriage.

Don’t forget to hit the subscribe button and share with a friend who might be struggling with outside influences in their relationship, OR has someone brought you in between them and their partner? This is the perfect episode to help you set boundaries to keep your relationship based on bonding instead of gossip.

Let’s build stronger, more resilient marriages, one episode at a time.

Episodes Referenced:
Ep 90: Differentiation: Could Your Differences Be Your Marriage Assets?
Ep 130: Conflict to Clarity: Identifying Your Deepest Fears 

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

 

Do you ever feel like you and your partner speak two different languages? I see it happen all of the time while in a session listening to couples talk, but rarely do the individuals themselves see the discrepancy because they are making pure sense in their minds.

This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I am digging into a different type of language, love languages.

Understanding the world of love languages will help revolutionize how you connect with your spouse.

Here is what you will learn in Ep 134: Love Languages: Making Them Work for You:

• What Gary Chapman categorizes as the 5 Love Languages and what each one means so you can better understand the concepts and start seeing them in yourself and your spouse.
• How to discover what your top love languages are, as well as your spouse’s
• Practices to help make your love languages work for you in your marriage

I’ll show you how to incorporate what you learn into your journey of self-discovery and growth, then move on to making them work in your marriage.

If you are frustrated because your spouse isn’t meeting your love language, I’ll teach you how to look within and discover ways to fulfill your needs first. 

Share your love language discoveries and experiences with me after listening to the episode, and together, let’s grow!

Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button and share with a friend who has talked about their love language and is disgruntled because their spouse is ignoring them!

Take the Love Languages Quiz right here!

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

 

When was the last time you blew bubbles with your spouse? I’m not sure I ever have, but I may need to add it to my FUN list – which you will learn about on this week’s AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode.

This week, I’m tackling a challenge many face: the sensation of being stuck in a mundane marriage.

I’ve had my journey with fun, one that led me back to my core self after years of stifling it. From societal expectations to personal beliefs, fun often took a back seat. But then, something changed. I embarked on a journey to rekindle my relationship with fun, not just in my personal life but within my marriage, too. The results were truly transformative.

What you’ll learn in Ep 133: Break the Boredom: The Power of Infusing Fun Into Your Marriage.

1. Fun is a Decision:
Fun is a choice you consciously make, not just a hoped-for outcome. It’s about crafting moments that light up your marriage intentionally. You can infuse fun into any situation, independent of external circumstances. Remember, your attitude is the key.

2. The Benefits of Fun:
Fun is not only a temporary escape from stress; it’s a catalyst for creativity, communication, and connection. When you infuse fun, you invite intimacy, broaden perspectives, and create memorable experiences that linger long after the moment.

3. Creating Fun Opportunities:
Start by exploring activities you genuinely enjoy on your own. Then, share your enthusiasm with your spouse. Discuss what fun means to both of you and be open to new experiences. Get creative with date nights, break free from the routine, and embrace spontaneity. Remember, fun doesn’t need to be extravagant – it’s the joy you cultivate that matters.

Ready to Take Action?

If you’re up for the challenge, I share ideas to get you started creating fun, and the best part is that it starts with you!

Friends, remember, the power of fun is within your grasp. Choose to infuse your marriage with joy and watch the magic unfold. Let’s dissolve the chains of boredom and embark on a thrilling journey of shared laughter and heartwarming memories.

Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button and share with a friend who is feeling the doldrums of the same old same old in their marriage.

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

 

This week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage we’re diving into the realm of marital doubts—a topic that might feel unsettling, but must be addressed if you want to find certainty.

Even in the most connected relationships, doubts can creep in. But fear not, because these doubts don’t mean your happiness is a mirage. Let’s break down the myth that happiness is elusive and embrace the possibility that your dream marriage is within reach.

In Episode 132: Choosing Right vs. Making It Right: Navigating Marital Doubts, we’re unraveling the misconception that one perfect soulmate exists out there.

Spoiler alert: there isn’t. Instead, let’s explore how intentional growth and commitment shape the love and connection you desire.

💥 Similarities & Differences: Love’s Dynamic Dance
Whether you’re with someone similar to you or your opposite, the dynamics are uniquely enriching. Discover how both paths present opportunities for growth, new perspectives, and deeper understanding.

🌱 Navigating Doubts: Building Stronger Bonds
Doubts are a normal part of any long-term relationship. We’ll share insights on navigating these doubts openly and honestly, fostering a safe space for growth and teamwork.

🌟 The Power of Acceptance and Love
Embracing your spouse, flaws and all, is a potent catalyst for deeper connection. Let’s cultivate the unconditional love that nurtures growth, acceptance, and understanding.

This episode will challenge your perspectives, empower your growth, and help you envision your relationship’s potential. Tune in to AwakenYou in Your Marriage, and let’s navigate doubts, create meaning, and build a truly remarkable marriage. Remember, your journey matters, and so does your happiness.

Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button, and share with a friend who is feeling disenchanted in their own marital relationship.

Episodes referenced:
Ep 118: Should You Stay or Go and Why You Need To Decide
Ep 120: Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving is Self Betrayal
Blog Post: Love Without Conditions

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

 

As we bid farewell to the summer season (ok, not according to the calendar but for those of you preparing to send kids back to school, it definitely feels like summer is quickly coming to an end) and embrace the magic of transitioning days, it’s a perfect moment to reflect and refocus on what truly matters in our relationships.

In this week’s AwakenYou in Your Marriage episode, I’m diving deep into a common challenge many of us face – handling disagreements without dragging up past grievances.

Join me as we uncover a powerful strategy to enhance our communication, resolve conflicts, and create a space for understanding and growth.

Ever noticed how some arguments take a detour into the past? It’s a diversion tactic that can escalate tension and hinder progress. Together, we’ll explore a new way forward.

Here’s a sneak peek of what’s to come:

1️⃣ Cultivating Emotional Awareness: We’ll delve into the vital practice of recognizing and understanding our emotions, fostering greater insight and empathy in our interactions.

2️⃣ Establishing Communication Guidelines: Discover how setting clear expectations around communication can prevent past issues from clouding present discussions.

3️⃣ Forgiving and Letting Go: Learn the art of genuine forgiveness and how it can transform your relationship dynamics.

4️⃣ Practicing I Statements: Explore the power of sharing your feelings and experiences without pointing fingers, contributing to productive conversations.

Throughout this episode, we’ll empower you to rewrite your argument script and foster a more harmonious and understanding connection with your partner.

Tune into Ep 131: Rewriting the Script: How to Argue Without Bringing Up the Past and gain valuable insights to elevate your relationship to new heights. If you’ve ever found yourself in the cycle of rehashing the past during conflicts, this episode is a must-listen.

Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button, and if you know someone who could benefit from this transformative wisdom, be the beacon of healing and share this episode with them. Together, we can create stronger, more connected relationships!

Episodes Referenced:
Ep 35: Emotional Regulation in Your Marriage
Ep 97: Why You Want to Forgive
Ep 81: US by Terrance Real, Book Highlights

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started.