When we think of self destructive behavior we most often think of extremes; suicidal thinking and attempts, cutting, drug use, over drinking, bulimia to name a few. Yet there is a long list that you might not even consider including, for example:

  • Thought patterns that don’t serve us, that have us losing before we start, “I’ll never amount to anything.” “I’ll never be able to have a loving relationship.”
  • Deliberately not taking action with your goals, guaranteeing failure ahead of time
  • Disordered eating of all types including over-eating, under-eating, over exercising to counterbalance food intake
  • Being a negative influence on others
  • Intentional withdrawal
  • Stuffing emotions
  • Acting dumb or incapable of creating results
  • All chemical abuse
  • Feeling sorry for yourself, or self pity, which just encourages inaction
  • Self sabotage and giving up on your desires
  • Over spending and not managing your money
  • Relationship sabotage including: being possessive, acting needy, being violent, emotional manipulation, jealousy and envy
  • Not taking care of yourself physically: not getting enough sleep, not getting movement, poor eating protocol
  • Pornography
  • Gambling
  • Over obsessing of any sort
  • Not attending to your state of mental health and learning how to up-level your life.

These are all learned behaviors that many of us work hard to resist the urge to indulge in. It’s possible that if you engage in any, or many, of these activities you may be labeling yourself as having an addictive personality.

The truth is that self destructive behaviors provide temporary relief, escape, temporary pleasure but over time cause much physical and mental pain.

As a coach I’m not here to dig into why you have developed these behaviors. The work I do with my clients is about teaching them how to handle the why behind these actions. We work on discovering what emotions they are running from and why.

Self destructive behavior is often a symptom of avoiding or resisting emotions. Learning how to process your emotions and determine where they are coming from is the work I do with my clients to start eliminating these destructive behaviors.

We work on our urges to numb the emotions we are feeling by actually feeling them, which starts to change the patterning we’ve deeply engrained into our brains.

Once we learn how to process our emotions we start feeling what delayed gratification feels like and start to decondition old patterns.

Over time we re-wire our brain patterning and discover that actually experiencing our emotions feels good and doesn’t kill us. We start changing our personality into the person we dream of being yet don’t know how to become. We be begin the process of creating a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves.

My clients start living the life they’ve dreamed of but never thought themselves worthy or capable. They start seeing their life in technicolor, high definition and are not one bit interested in going back to their old life. “Relapse” is not relapse, it is a learning tool to grow and understand instead of failure and giving up.

If you, or someone you know, suffers with self destructive behavior I’d love to share my life solution with them. Today could be the first day of their new life.


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