A few days back, while publishing a recent blog, a thought occurred to me. I was thinking about the upcoming Fourth of July holiday and how last year, during that time away, I was in the middle of a challenge, a challenge to write 30 blogs in 30 days. I looked at my website back office, discovering that it was June 24, 2019, that I started that challenge, 94 blog posts later it had been over a year and it is just something I do.
Today I decided to share some of my reflections about how I got to this place. My hope is that in the process it will help you with any goals you have been thinking about but haven’t taken the action needed to get your desired result.
Thinking about your goal
What is it you want to achieve? How long have you been thinking about it? Way too often in my past life, I had a litany of things I wanted to accomplish, I’d create list upon list, stack them up in my head, take a stab here and there to make progress, never really getting anywhere. Sound at all familiar? I hear it over and over with my clients. We spend so much energy up in our heads spinning around, no wonder we think we’re too busy.
Today I want to suggest a new method.
- Write down all of the things you want to do, get them out of your head onto paper.
- Next, ask yourself these questions: • “What do I want to do?” • “What do I have to do?” • “What do I need to do?” • “What do I wish I would do?” • “What are the consequences of not doing each of these?”
- Look at the list and tell yourself this: “I don’t HAVE to do any of this.”, be honest, this is 100% true.
- Then cross off anything on the list you don’t want to do.
- Now prioritize your list.
Today I am not going to get into goal setting and goal-accomplishing, I just want you to look at that one thing. The one thing that you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t taken appropriate steps to make anything significant happen.
Let’s make it even simpler: What is the one thing you want to be doing that you’re not doing?
I knew I wanted to be putting great content out for my potential clients to get to know me, to start learning from me and to start practicing what I teach. I wanted something more than just social media posts. I had dabbled with a blog in my previous coaching business but was never very consistent; now, I wanted a different result. I wanted to give my people excellent, constant value.
What are your reasons?
Next, look at that one thing that you want to be doing but aren’t and do the following:
- Write a list of all of your reasons why you want to accomplish this dream.
- What are your reasons for not wanting to accomplish your dream? Make a list.
- Look at each list and ask yourself if you like your reasons.
I 100% loved all of my reasons for starting, and continuing a blog. All of my reasons for not wanting to do it were about fear and hiding; I didn’t like those reasons one bit. I knew it would be a lot of work but I also knew that someday I dreamed of having a podcast and that a blog was the perfect way for me to discover my voice while proving to myself that I could do this.
Decide and be all in on your decision.
If your decision is no, or no for now, drop it. Let it go and stop thinking about it. Stop beating yourself up. You don’t like your reasons for doing it so let it go.
If your decision is yes then it’s time to find your compelling reason to make this dream happen. It’s time to stop letting yourself down ahead of time.
What is your compelling reason?
- Find it
- Write it down
- Refer to it often
You heard mine: I want to provide value for everyone who visits my website, people who will never be my client as well as those who will.
Write down all of the obstacles between here and your goal. I had all sorts of them:
- I had to figure out where and how I was going to publish these articles
- I had to figure out what I was going to write about
- I had to build my self-confidence
- I had to figure out titles, photos
- I had to figure out how to publish a website
- I had to create a Facebook business page
- I had to get over myself and my mind drama
These were just a few of my obstacles, the biggest one being me. My brain, and all of the reasons it came up as to why this was a bad idea, that I should just skip it.
Then I came up with strategies to overcome my obstacles. Those strategies were all the steps I would take to get to my goal; these steps all got planned out on my calendar. The most important strategy was the one of managing my mind with daily self-coaching.
You know what comes next? You just get started.
Every day I looked at my compelling reason and re-committed.
Every day honoring my plan.
Every day managing my mind.
Every day taking time at the end of the day to evaluate what worked well, what didn’t work, and what I was going to do different.
Here is what happens next:
All of a sudden what was once a challenge is now a part of your daily life. I not only reached my goal but surpassed it, daily setting new goals. Now I have a backlog of blogs ready to go, photos curated, social media content curated AND, the most exciting part for me right now, at this moment: I have started publishing an audio version of my blog!
Every day, one step closer to the day on the calendar I have planned to launch my podcast.
I’d love for you to look back to a year ago. What have you committed to and accomplished since that time?
Do you know what might be even better? Make today the day you’re going to do the work I suggested so that you can look back a year from now and give yourself a high five for doing what you said you were going to do. I can’t wait to hear all about, please do share!
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