Have you ever loved your spouse deeply but felt your body shut down when they reached for you?
Maybe you’ve wondered…
“Why don’t I want sex the way I used to?”
“Why does my mind feel so distracted—or even resistant—when I want to feel close?”
If that’s you, I want you to take a deep breath and hear this:
👉 There’s nothing wrong with you.
👉 Your desire isn’t gone.
👉 Your body is just doing what it’s designed to do: protect you.
This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, we’re talking about how stress, old stories, and even subtle tension in your relationship can shut down desire—and how to gently bring safety back into your body and into your marriage.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
✅ Why your nervous system holds the key to desire (and how to work with it, not against it).
✅ A deeply personal story about how old messages from my childhood—even pornography in our home—shaped my nervous system’s response to sex… and what I’ve done to heal.
✅ The real reason long-term desire changes and why “higher” vs. “lower” desire is a myth keeping couples stuck.
✅ Simple somatic and spiritual tools to help you relax into intimacy, even if it feels hard right now.
If sex has ever felt like one more thing on your to-do list—or if you’ve felt shame about wanting more connection but not knowing how to get there—this episode is for you.
And if you’ve missed the first three episodes in this Let’s Talk About Sex in Marriage series, now is the perfect time to catch up. Together, these episodes are creating a whole new conversation around intimacy—one that’s compassionate, realistic, and deeply healing.
And don’t forget—Part 6 will be a Q&A episode, so if you have a question you’d love me to answer about sex and intimacy in marriage, share it in an email (christine@christinebongiovanni.com) or message me on Instagram. I’d love to hear from you.
I’m a marriage coach who helps women and couples turn a disconnected, lonely marriage into something deeply connected—sometimes even better than they imagined was possible. We start by gently exploring what you truly want in your marriage—because let’s be honest, it’s probably been a while since you’ve let yourself dream about what could be. From there, we create a path forward toward the kind of relationship you long for.
If you’re feeling sad, stuck, or unsure about what’s next, I’d love to talk with you. Book a Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call, and let’s have an honest, hope-filled conversation about what’s going on and what it might look like to begin creating something new—starting from exactly where you are.
