Here it is my friend, my best tip as to how to start loving yourself is to decide.

I see you shaking your head and rolling your eyes, all mad at me for the worst piece of advice ever, but before you click off the page, please read on because this short article might just change your life.

Yes, my one best tip as to how to start loving yourself is to decide that you are done with the self-sabotage.

It really is just a decision, I’m not saying it’s something you decide today and life goes on to a happily ever after, but what I am saying is you get to decide whether you want to love yourself or not.


This in itself, was truly magical for me once I allowed it to really sink in. You see, I had never been taught that this was even available for me, or if it had I most certainly was absent on that day of class.


The reason you feel like you can’t move forward with that decision is because of your brain. Your brain likes to keep things simple. You have run a series of thoughts for so long in your life that they have become deeply engrained neurological pathways. Sort of like walking. There was a time when you didn’t know how to walk, it was difficult, you fell down a lot, now you no longer have to be deliberate about taking steps, it’s committed to our primitive brain.


Same with those thoughts like:


“I’m fat.”

“I’m stupid.”

“I’m not good enough to do such and such.”

Insert your own negative mantra.


They may seem harmless, I hear you say it like you’re reporting the weather. These are thoughts you’ve had for so many years they’ve become instinctual. The work to change those neurological paths will need to be deliberate, consistent and a practice that starts with deciding today to chose a new mantra.


The beginning is going to be rough, your brain is going to argue with you. It’s going to tell you that you’re a liar, that you don’t know what you’re talking about, that you’re talking nonsense, I mean really, “Did you look in the mirror today?”


What I teach my clients is how to unlearn everything they have taught themselves about themselves.


I teach them how to start trusting themselves.


I teach them how to start saying positive things to themselves and change these new thoughts to absolute truths.


I teach them how to find love from within and how to stop looking outside of yourself for love, how to stop trying to manipulate others so that they can feel loved.

I teach them how to have their own back.

Love starts with you my friend and it’s a choice you get to make.


Will you choose love or will you continue the self-sabotage?


If you are running a continual thought loop of how you’re not good enough then I would love to start the conversation with you about how my AwakenYou one-on-one coaching program can turn your life around. I see how wildly successful you are, now imagine actually enjoying this life of success that you’ve created, actually believing in your own success. Your life is waiting for you, there’s no better time than now to start making that change you’ve been dreaming about for your life. Today could be the day you look back at one year from now and smile because today was the day you decided to be all in on you and your future, I can’t wait to watch your life take off!

I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.

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