Every morning I ask myself a positive question and I write it down at the top of my time management planner.
When we ask our brain questions it will start looking for answers.
I love how our brain works!
Funny thing though is that we most often tend to ask our brain negative questions.
“Why can’t I figure this out?”
“Why can’t I lose this weight?”
“Why is my boss so selfish?”
“Will this ever work?”
They all seem like great questions but when we think about taking action to get the results we want in our life these questions aren’t going to get us the answers we need.
These sort of questions will send the brain looking for answers to these questions, this is some of the answers my mind comes up with:
“Um, hello, because you don’t know what you’re doing!”
“I can’t control myself around food.”
“He/she is only looking out for him/herself.”
“Of course not!”
These answers do nothing in the way of helping me find a solution to my problem, or yours.
One thing I tell my clients to do is to ask the exact opposite question, allowing your brain to start searching for different answers, answers that can allow you to start solving the problem!
One of the rules I learned when I started the work of self-coaching is that the answer “I don’t know” just isn’t an option, my master coach, Brooke Castillo, won’t allow this as an answer to any question.
No matter what.
“I don’t know” stops you from moving forward, instead I like to ask myself, and my clients, “If you did know, what would you say or do?”
Doing this allows us to take one step forward, then we can ask “What next?” and answer it.
If you knew the answer to your positive question, what would you do next?
I want to share my favorite question to ask lately.
“What would it be like to be…?” and then I enter an emotion like “self-confident”.
With this practice, I have been watching when I’m coming up with negative thoughts and then I’ll ask myself the question.
I’m pretty jazzed with the results this is producing in my life!
Let me know if you try it and if you do, how it’s working for you, I’d love to help you start asking great questions!
Send me an email if you have questions about this work and I’ll help you move forward!
I am a life coach who works with individuals to break down relationship barriers by awakening their true self. My process isn’t about changing your partner, it’s about discovering who you are so that you can AwakenYou in your marriage. If you’re ready to take your life and your love relationship to the next level then schedule your program inquiry call today and let’s decide together if this is your next step to creating the life you’ve been dreaming of.