Have you ever looked back at something that happened in your life that at the time seemed like a tragedy, but now you see the gift from that experience?

It makes me think of the story about the Chinese farmer; if you haven’t heard it, you can check it out here.

There are so many messages to take away from this parable. My takeaway is to be present to all the things in front of us, being curious as to what magical place this experience will lead us to.

Often we look at our life and marriage through glasses that zoom in on us, seeing how we’re being cheated of the life and marriage we signed up for.

But what if we looked at our experience from a different vantage point?

What then might you see in your marriage?

When we are focused on what’s wrong, we might sharpen our minds, but it dulls our hearts.

Focusing on what’s wrong doesn’t allow us to see what is right, what is working, and what is good.

This week I talk about a new way to filter the circumstances of our day, so we can see the gifts and appreciate our interdependence on each other instead of taking it all for granted.

Find out more by tuning into this week’s episode of AwakenYou in your marriage, and listen to the end, where I share a practice you can use this month to help you start looking at life through a whole new lens!


I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & emotionless marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by looking within to understand how you got here, and from this place, we work together to figure out where you want to go. Then we do the work of making that your reality!

If you feel sad and completely powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, then I’d love to chat with you about what is going on and what’s possible for you and your future. It’s never too late to re-create your best life. Schedule a free mini-session today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 


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