It’s time to activate your inner Jane Marple and crack the code!

Get ready for another transformative journey on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage Podcast! In Episode 143, we’re diving into Part 2 of our Conflict to Connection series: Decoding Conflict: Unraveling the Why.

What You’ll Learn:

Last week, we explored recognizing recurring conflicts in your marriage, asking you to observe those moments of activation. This week, we’re taking a step further. Here’s what you’ll discover:

  1. Decode Your Emotions: Explore the emotions that surface during conflicts. Learn to process and understand what you feel.
  2. Roots in Childhood: Uncover if your spouse’s actions trigger memories from your past, especially from childhood. Understand the echoes of the past in your present.
  3. Stories We Tell Ourselves: Examine the narratives you create about your partner’s actions. Often, these stories are deeply rooted in past experiences.

Why It Matters:

The goal is to break free from the patterns that keep you entangled in needing your partner to change for you to feel better. As you unravel the inner conflicts, you pave the way for a calmer, more understanding connection.

Self-Reflection Exercise:

  1. Explore Your Emotions: Identify how conflicts make you feel. Need guidance? Episode 23 is a great resource: How to Process Those Emotions
  2. Childhood Echoes: Check if your spouse’s actions remind you of scenarios from your childhood.
  3. The Stories We Tell: Reflect on the narratives you create about your partner’s actions. Are they stories from the past or the present?

Your Journey to Connection:

Understanding your unique conflict dynamic is the bridge to connection. This work takes practice, and it’s a journey, not a sprint. With each step, you’re paving the way for healthier, more vibrant connections.

Ready for Change? Book a Call:

This process isn’t meant to be walked alone. If you’re ready to dive deeper and bring real examples to light, book a call. Let’s untangle the complexities and move towards transformation.

Embrace the Journey:

As the holiday season approaches, stress levels might be peaking. Take this opportunity to gift yourself the space for curiosity amidst conflicts. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey


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If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

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