These energy leaks won’t show up on your energy bill, but they will slowly drain energy away from creating the marriage you desire. 

When it comes to energy leaks in your home, most of you will do your best to block them to save on the monthly expense.

But what about your energy leaks?

How are you wasting energy that is getting you the opposite of what you desire in your marriage?

• Dreaming of that perfect partner
• Being a bit too emotionally invested in that co-worker
• Dwelling on the imperfections that you believe are keeping you and your spouse from really having what it takes to be happy
• Not choosing to be all in (or all out) with the one you’re with 

This week on the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast, I am going to unmask ways that you might be unconsciously sabotaging your marriage, as well as share a six-step process to end these behaviors so that you can commit all of your energy into falling back in love with the one you’re with.

Listen to this week’s Episode 125: Sabotage Unmasked: Unraveling the Hidden Threats in Your Marriage, and discover the process.

Ep 23: Processing Those Emotions
Ep 118: Should You Stay or Go and Why You Need To Decide
Ep 119: How To Build the Closeness You Desire
Ep 120: Leaving Your Marriage Without Leaving Is Self-Betrayal

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

Could it be that you may have relinquished a bit of your true self in your quest for closeness with your spouse?

Many of us have perceived very early on in our life that certain parts of us are unacceptable, so to survive, we compromised our true selves to receive the love we needed to feel acceptable.

It’s part of our primal need to help us survive.

Fast-forward to when you fell in love with your partner, these same behaviors will unconsciously show up; they are wired into our autonomic nervous system.

I believe that somewhere down the line in the relationship, again unconsciously, when we start to feel disconnected, uninspired, and unconsidered, we push back against those old behaviors we used to draw them in.

Unconsciously we are protecting ourselves from getting hurt, but the result is less love and more disconnection.

This week on the AwakenYou in your Marriage podcast, I talk all about the tension between our drive for closeness and authenticity and helping you discover how to nurture your true self while learning how to grow closer to the one you’re with. Listen to Episode 124: Embracing Authenticity: Nurturing Your True Self within Your Marriage, and start to understand some of your behaviors that might not be serving you and the relationship you dream of with your spouse.

Book reference: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, Gabor Maté

Podcast episodes referenced:
Ep 92: How Your Attachment Style is Affecting Your Marriage
Ep 119: How To Build the Closeness You Desire
Ep 123: Foundations of Love: A Fun Exercise To Help Cultivate & Share Fondness in Your Marriage

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

This week is all about a fun exercise I created to help you cultivate fondness for what you and your spouse have created in your marriage. 

Fondness and admiration are part of the foundation of a strong marriage, and it’s built and strengthened over the span of your time together, yet for many couples, this part of the marital foundation starts to crumble a few years into the commitment.

Relationship expert John Gottman even talks about how the way you tell the story of your marriage (your fondness of what you have built together) strongly indicates whether you have a positive or negative relationship with your spouse.

Oh, and I share a story about what happened when I first did this exercise with Jeff, so if you feel a bit self-conscious about thoughts you have about your spouse and your marriage, then you’ll want to listen to my story, I think it will make you feel much better!

If you’re looking for a new way to connect and get to know your spouse, as well as learn a thing or two about yourself, then this week’s episode is for you: episode 123: Foundations of Love: A Fun Exercise To Help Cultivate & Share Fondness in Your Marriage. I also designed this exercise for you to do on your own if your partner isn’t into it, and then I shared how you can use it to have a fun conversation getting to know each other better without them knowing your motives 😉

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started. 

What have you believed to be normal in your marriage?

How does this “normal” sit with you?

There are so many misconceptions and societal expectations about marriage, and I want to explore these notions this week.

Too often, we find ourselves stuck in our marriages because things aren’t going as “normal.” We limit our individuality, hinder our personal growth, and feel pressured to show up in a way that doesn’t align with who we are.

I want to challenge these conventions and empower you to embrace your true you within your most intimate relationship.

Whether you are single, in a committed relationship, or simply interested in understanding the intricacies of modern relationships, this episode is for you.

This week I’m continuing my rant as I help you explore what is normal in your marriage when it comes to:

• Sex
• Conflict
• Dependence/Independence/Interdependence
• Knowing each other
• How easy it is to have a good marriage
• Deciding if the best is yet to come
• Your ability to create happiness and joy with your spouse

If you’ve believed something to be normal within marriage and it doesn’t feel exhilarating, I suggest you check out this week’s AwakenYou in your Marriage episode. Episode 122: Shattering the Myth of “Normal” in Marriage will help you decide what you want to consider normal so you can stop residing in a lackluster relationship.

 

I am a marriage coach helping women and couples turn their loveless & disconnected marriage into something better than they ever imagined possible. My process starts by helping you figure out what it is you even want in your marriage because face it, it’s been a while since you’ve dreamed of what your future could look like. Once you’ve started to open up to what is possible together we create a path towards the marriage you crave.

If you feel sad and powerless about your marriage’s state of affairs, I’d love to chat with you about how you’re feeling and what moving towards something different could look like. Book your Courageous Love Conversation Inquiry Call today, and let’s talk about how to get started.