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When I look back on my life and the results I have

When I look back on my life and the results I have produced, I can see that I was the producer of those results. Yes, even those results that I used to blame on other people, you know, the results I didn't think was so stellar. ⁣
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When we use the thought model correctly, we find out that every result that we had gotten we created by actions we took from the emotion we felt when we thought something about the circumstance. ⁣
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Let me be clear about our results. Our result is something we produce; it is not something that someone else does to us. What I mean by that is this: if someone hits us, that is not a result that we produced, that is our circumstance. ⁣
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With that particular circumstance, we will have thoughts about it that produce feelings and actions, causing our result. Maybe we think "I deserved that.", which might make us feel guilty or shameful. Those emotions might make us hide, blame ourselves, not speak our mind, not set boundaries, try to people please, try to make others act differently. All of these actions will create a result of us not creating a life that we truly deserve.⁣
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What result are you creating in your life that you can't seem to break? ⁣
We all have them so let's start changing them. ⁣
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It's Monday, and I'm ready to produce some results

It's Monday, and I'm ready to produce some results!⁣
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How do you do that any Monday, much less a Monday after a holiday weekend?⁣
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So very glad you asked because we are in week six of this deep dive I have been taking into learning how to create the results we want in our life!⁣
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Perfect timing, huh?⁣
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We, humans, are designed to create results. When we learn how to produce results that serve the life we want to create, that's when our life lights up.⁣
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What result do you want today? How will you get it? ⁣
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Today we celebrate our independence while not ever

Today we celebrate our independence while not everyone in this country feels free. ⁣
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What that means for me is that there is still fighting to be done, improvements to be made, love to be created within the hearts of each of us. ⁣
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My prayer today is that you have an amazingly beautiful day with your friends and family while you pay attention to the actions you take. ⁣
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May all of your actions today come from a place of compassion. ⁣
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Before you can take action of compassion for other humans you have to find your own compassion from within. Hate only drives hate. ⁣
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Love yourself first and the rest will work itself out.⁣
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Figuring out how to take different actions than we

Figuring out how to take different actions than we are currently taking is a process. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
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The first step of the process is just to realize that you are creating the action, or inaction, yourself. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Realizing that what we are thinking is creating an emotion that drives those actions is step one. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
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REALLY let that sink in.⁣⁣⁣⁣
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What your partner does, or doesn't do, what they say, or don't say, has nothing to do with how you feel. What do you think about that fact?⁣⁣⁣⁣
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That thought is what is creating the fuel for your actions.⁣
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After you let that sink in, then you can start thinking about different actions you'd like to take, or maybe even how you would prefer to feel.⁣⁣⁣⁣
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I don't know about you but just sitting in what I am creating and knowing that I am the boss of it, even if it's not what I desire, gives me some relief. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Relief because I know I have the power to change it. What is it that you want the power to change in your relationship?⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Google's definition intrigues me. We do things typ

Google's definition intrigues me. We do things typically to achieve a result but sometimes we don't see the result we're getting. Sometimes we don't see that the actions we are taking are getting us the exact opposite result we want.⁣
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We think that getting angry at our partner for not doing the things we want them to do will get them to do those things. ⁣
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We think not giving them a hug in the morning will get them to start showing us the love we want.⁣
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We don't realize that the overeating we are doing because we’re disappointed in our partner hurts us more than taking time to process why we want to eat when we're not hungry.⁣
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What action are you taking that you don't want to be taking or not taking that you want to be taking in your love relationship? Why?⁣
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Today is the end of the second quarter. It's half-

Today is the end of the second quarter. It's half-time. Have you taken the actions you wanted to take over the past six months to create the dream you planned to be living six months from now?⁣
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The fuel that drives the actions you take or want to take, is your emotions. What type of fuel are you using to create a life that matters to you? If you're not taking the actions you want to take, how do you change?⁣
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Maybe now you're seeing how each of these past weeks has been building on each other. Yesterday I talked about how I list the actions I want to take in my day and how I decide what is going to fuel those actions. What I mean is, I decide how I have to feel to get the things done, then after I chose my fuel, I decide on a belief to provide that needed fuel.⁣
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Those choices are written at the top of my day's schedule, and I refer to it throughout my day. When I want to do something other than what I decided ahead of time, I look at my day's belief, which creates the needed fuel to drive the required action.⁣
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What are some actions you want to take today, and what fuel will you provide to honor yourself?⁣
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"What actions do I want to take today?"⁣ ⁣ I a

"What actions do I want to take today?"⁣
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I ask myself this question before I start every day; it's part of my morning practice. I look forward to the end of my day and decide what it is I want to get done. This practice is even better if you can do it outside with your dog sitting next to you!⁣
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Let's continue the conversation about how to solve any problem in your life. If you've been following along, then you are ready to start talking about actions.⁣
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Actions are what we do or what we don't do. Actions can be what other people might see us do, as well as what they can't see, like all of those actions going on in your head.⁣
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What actions do you want to take today? Why? How will you make sure you get them done?⁣
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Really. Just pause for one minute.⁣ ⁣ Feel wha

Really. Just pause for one minute.⁣
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Feel what is happening in your body.⁣
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This week you will be continuing the work from the last three weeks: ⁣
• Thought downloads⁣
• Separating out facts from thoughts⁣
• Finding the negative and positive thoughts⁣
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That work takes 15 minutes out of your day and now we're adding a minute three times throughout your day to pause and discover how you are feeling. This week's blog includes a free worksheet that has some questions to help you with the process. I also included a feeling wheel to help you name the emotion. Go get it now, the link is in my bio!⁣
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How are you feeling right now? Why?⁣
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